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]]> Wed, 16 Jul 2008 15:46:38 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/215445 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/215445 推荐zenhabit - Leo Babauta的博客 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/207454  发表时间: 2008年06月24日

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Leo Babauta的博客，Leo是生活在关岛的一个作家、跑步者和素食者。他的博客中谈了很多关于如何设定目标达成目标、养成好习惯等等生活主题，而且分门别类。不少文章，我觉得非常实用和有道理。

下面摘录“50种简单的浪漫”中的一段。供大家参考借鉴。

1. Write a poem.
2. Cook a romantic dinner.
3. Give a full-body massage.
4. Pack a sunset picnic.
5. Pick wildflowers on the way home.
6. Burn a CD with love songs.
7. Give dark chocolates.
8. Read poetry together.
9. Prepare strawberries with fondue chocolate.
10. Snuggle together on a rainy day.
11. Leave little love notes everywhere.
12. Send a love email every day.
13. Take a moonlit walk on the beach.
14. Snuggle together while watching romantic movies (Casablanca, Audrey Hepburn are my favs).
15. Get good wine, watch shooting stars.
16. Take a bath together (use bubbles!).
17. Bring home good coffee or a decadent sweet.
18. Take a walk down memory lane — visit some of the special places from your early days of dating.
19. Make warm chocolate cake for dessert.
20. Make a scrapbook with photos, mementos, and little notes from you lives together.
21. Kiss in the rain.
22. Ride a ferris wheel.
23. Sneak away from a party and make out.
24. Bring home great take-out, and light some candles.
25. Fix something or fix up the house just to make your partner happy.
26. Slow dance to romantic music.
27. Take a nap together.
28. Kiss slowly, touching his or her back and neck and nape — slowly.
29. Make a list of everything you love about him or her.
30. Write a love letter.
31. Clip or email things that make you think of him or her, every day.
32. Go to a movie, ignore the movie, and make out like teen-agers.
33. Groom yourself, and try to look good for your partner.
34. Take some quiet time and talk about your day.
35. Write little notes, one for each way he or she drives you crazy.
36. Feed each other grapes.
37. Recreate your partner’s favorite romantic movie scene.
38. Pretend you’re going on a first date — show up at the door with flowers, all dressed up, with your car washed and cleaned, looking spiffy. Recreate the first time.
39. Create a little box with a bunch of your partner’s favorite things inside.
40. Paint each other with flavored body paint. Be creative!
41. Try some sexy role-playing. Get dressed up, be daring, have fun.
42. Give a little token to your partner to wear, and say it’s to remind him or her all day that you love them.
43. Sing a favorite song to him or her. Only do this if you can sing fairly well.
44. Have dinner on the roof, with some candles. This doesn’t work if your roof slopes sharply.
45. Hold hands, and walk somewhere with lots of pretty lights.
46. Say I love you. In a different way, every day.
47. Blindfold your partner. Use a feather. Slowly.
48. Declare your love, very publicly.
49. Fruit or berries and freshly made whipped cream.
50. Play Sade. Do what comes naturally. Slowly.
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]]> Tue, 24 Jun 2008 13:46:04 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/207454 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/207454 fw:生命三角——地震求生 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/192943  发表时间: 2008年05月14日

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My name is Doug Copp. I am the Rescue Chief and Disaster Manager of the American Rescue Team International (ARTI), the world\\\'s most experienced rescue team. The information in this article will save lives in an earthquake.

我的名字叫Doug Copp。我是世界上最有经验的救援小组---美国国际救援小组(ARTI)的首席救援者，也是灾难部的经理。本文中以下信息能在地震中挽救生命。

I have crawled inside 875 collapsed buildings, worked with rescue teams from 60 countries, founded rescue teams in several countries, and I am a member of many rescue teams from many countries. I was the United Nations expert in Disaster Mitigation (UNX051 -UNIENET) for two years. I have worked at every major disaster in the world since 1985, except for simultaneous disasters.

我和曾经来自60多个不同国家成立的各种救援小组一起工作过，曾在875个倒塌的建筑物里爬进爬出。在联合国灾难减轻(UNX051 -UNIENET)小组中我担任了任期两年的专家。从1985年至今，除非同时发生了多个灾祸，我几乎参与了每一次重大的救援工作。

In 1996 we made a film which proved my survival methodology to be correct. The Turkish Federal Government, City of Istanbul, University of Istanbul, Case Productions and ARTI cooperated to film this practical, scientific test.

在1996 年，我们用我创立的而且被证明是正确的方法制作了一部电影。土耳其政府、伊斯坦布尔市、伊斯坦布尔大学、及ARTI联合制作了这部科学研究性的影片。

We collapsed a school and a home with 20 mannequins inside. Ten mannequins did \\"duck and cover,\\" and ten mannequins I used in my \\"triangle of life\\" survival method.

我们人为地摧毁了一座学校，和一个里面有20 个人体模特的房屋。十个人体模特用“蹲下和掩护”的方法，而另外十个模特使用我的“生命三角”的求生方法。

After the simulated earthquake collapse we crawled through the rubble and entered the building to film and document the results.

模拟地震发生后，我们通过倒塌的碎石慢慢进入了建筑物，并拍摄和记录了结果。

The film, in which I practiced my survival techniques under directly observable, scientific conditions, relevant to building collapse, showed there would have been zero percent survival for those doing duck and cover. There would likely have been 100 % survivability for people using my method of the \\"triangle of life.\\" This film has been seen by millions of viewers on television in Turkey and the rest of Europe, and it was seen in the USA, Canada and Latin America on the TV program Real TV.

在一个在可直接观察到的而且科学的条件下，这部电影拍摄了我使用的求生技术。结果显示那些用“蹲下和和掩护” 方法的人存活率会是零，而那些使用“生命三角”的人能够达到100%的存活率。上百万的人已经在土耳其和欧洲的其他地方，还有美国、加拿大和拉丁美洲的电视节目里看到过这部片子。

The first building I ever crawled inside of was a school in Mexico City during the 1985 earthquake. Every child was under their desk. Every child was crushed to the thickness of their bones. They could have survived by lying down next to their desks in the aisles. It was obscene, unnecessary and I wondered why the children were not in the aisles. I didn\\\'t at the time know that the children were told to hide under something.

我曾进入的第一个建筑物是 在1985 年墨西哥地震中的一个学校。每个孩子都在课桌底下。每个孩子都被压扁了。他们如果能在走道里挨着他们的课桌躺下，就有生还的希望。我不知道为什么孩子不在走道里。那时，我不知道孩子们被教导要躲在某物体的下面。

Simply stated, when buildings collapse, the weight of the ceilings falling upon the objects or furniture inside crushes these objects, leaving a space or void next to them. This space is what I call the \\"triangle of life\\". The larger the object, the stronger, the less it will compact. The less the object compacts, the larger the void, the greater the probability that the person who is using this void for safety will not be injured.

简单地说，当建筑物倒塌时，落在物体或家俱上的屋顶的重力会撞击这些物体，使得靠近它们的地方留下一个空间。这个空间就是被我称作的“生命三角”。物体越大，越坚固，它被挤压的余地就越小。而物体被挤压得越小，这个空间就越大，于是利用这个空间的人免于受伤的可能性就越大。

The next time you watch collapsed buildings, on television, count the \\"triangles\\" you see formed. They are everywhere. It is the most common shape, you will see, in a collapsed building. They are everywhere. I trained the Fire Department of Trujillo (population 750,000) in how to survive, take care of their families, and to rescue others in earthquakes.

下次，你在电视里观看倒塌的建筑物时，数一数这些形成的“三角”。你会发现到处都有这些三角。在倒塌的建筑物里，这是最常见的形状。几乎到处都有。我培训 Trujillo (人口约为750,000的地方)的消防部门，教导人们如何求生，如何照顾他们的家人，以及如何在地震中援救他人。

The chief of rescue in the Trujillo Fire Department is a professor at Trujillo University. He accompanied me everywhere. He gave personal testimony: \\"My name is Roberto Rosales. I am Chief of Rescue in Trujillo. When I was 11 years old, I was trapped inside of a collapsed building. My entrapment occurred during the earthquake of 1972 that killed 70,000 people. I survived in the \\"triangle of life\\" that existed next to my brother\\\'s motorcycle. My friends who got under the bed and under desks were crushed to death ...I am the living example of the \\"triangle of life\\". My dead friends are the example of \\"duck and cover\\".

Trujillo 消防部门的救援总负责人是Trujillo大学的教授。他陪伴我同行，他说：“我叫Roberto Rosales，我是Trujillo的首席救援者。我11岁时，我被陷在一幢倒塌的建筑物里。就是发生在1972年的那场地震中，当时有70,000人死亡。我利用我哥哥摩托车旁的“生命三角”保住了生命。我的朋友们，那些躲在床下，桌子下的人都死了。（他列出了这些人的姓名、地址……）。我可以称作是 “生命三角”的活生生的例子，而我那些朋友是“蹲下和掩护”的例子。

Tips from Doug Copp:

Doug Copp的提示：

1) Everyone who simply \\"ducks and covers\\" WHEN BUILDINGS COLLAPSE is crushed to death -- Every time, without exception. People who get under objects, like desks or cars, are always crush.

当建筑物倒下时，每个只是简单地“蹲下和掩护”的人都被压死了，每次，毫无例外。而那些躲逃到物体，如桌子，或汽车下躲避的人也总是受到了些伤害。

2) Cats, dogs and babies all naturally often curl up in the fetal position. You should too in an earthquake. It is a natural safety/survival instinct. You can survive in a smaller void. Get next to an object, next to a sofa, next to a large bulky object that will compress slightly but leave a void next to it.

猫，狗和小孩子在遇到危险的时候，会自然地蜷缩起身体。地震时，你也应该这么做。这是一种安全的本能。而且你在一个很小的空间里就可以做到。靠近一个物体，一个沙发，或一个大件，它仅受到了略微的挤压，但在靠着它旁边的地方留下了一个空间。

3) 3) Wooden buildings are the safest type of construction to be in during an earthquake. The reason is simple: the wood is flexible and moves with the force of the earthquake. If the wooden building does collapse, large survival voids are created. Also, the wooden building has less concentrated, crushing weight. Brick buildings will break into individual bricks. Bricks will cause many injuries but less squashed bodies than concrete slabs.

在地震中，木质建筑物最牢固。木头具有弹性，并且与地震的力量一起移动。如果木质建筑物倒塌了，会留出很大的生存空间。而且，木质材料密度最小，重量最小。砖块材料则会破碎成一块块更小的砖。砖块会造成人员受伤，但是，被砖块压伤的人远比被水泥压伤的人数则要少得多。

4) If you are in bed during the night and an earthquake occurs, simply roll off the bed. A safe void will exist around the bed.

如果晚上生发了地震，而你正在床上。你只要简单地滚下床。在床的周围会形成一个安全的空间。

5) If an earthquake happens while you are watching television and you cannot easily escape by getting out the door or window, then lie down and curl up in the fetal position next to a sofa, or large chair.

如果地震发生了，而你正在看电视，不能迅速地从门或窗口逃离，那就在靠近沙发，或椅子的旁边躺下，然后蜷缩起来。

6) Everybody who gets under a doorway when buildings collapse is killed. How? If you stand under a doorway and the door jam falls forward or backward you will be crushed by the ceiling above. If the door jam falls sideways you will be cut in half by the doorway. In either case, you will be killed!

当大楼倒塌时，很多人在门口死亡了。怎么回事？如果你站在门框下，当门框向前或向后倒下时，你会被头顶上的屋顶砸伤。如果门框向侧面倒下，你会被压在当中，所以，不管怎么样，你都会受到致命伤害！

7) Never go to the stairs. The stairs have a different \\"moment of frequency\\" (they swing separately from the main part of the building). The stairs and remainder of the building continuously bump into each other until structural failure of the stairs takes place. The people who get on stairs before they fail are chopped up by the stair treads - horribly mutilated. Even if the building doesn\\\'t collapse, stay away from the stairs. The stairs are a likely part of the building to be damaged. Even if the stairs are not collapsed by the earthquake, they may collapse later when overloaded by fleeing people. They should always be checked for safety, even when the rest of the building is not damaged.

千万不要走楼梯，楼梯与建筑物摇晃的频率不同（他们和建筑物的主体部分分别晃动）。楼梯和大楼的结构物发生不断地碰撞，直到楼梯发生构造问题。人在楼梯上时，会被楼梯的台阶割断，这是很恐怖的毁伤！就算楼梯没有倒塌，也要远离楼梯。楼梯就像大楼的一样会被损坏。哪怕不是因为地震而倒，还会因为承受过多的人群而坍塌。所以，我们应该始终首先检查楼梯的安全，甚至建筑物的其他部分并没有被损坏。

8) Get Near the Outer Walls Of Buildings Or Outside Of Them If Possible. It is much better to be near the outside of the building rather than the interior. The farther inside you are from the outside perimeter of the building the greater the probability that your escape route will be blocked.

尽量靠近建筑物的外墙或离开建筑物。靠近墙的外侧远比内侧要好。你越靠近建筑物的中心，你的逃生路径被阻挡的可能性就越大。

9) People inside of their vehicles are crushed when the road above falls in an earthquake and crushes their vehicles; which is exactly what happened with the slabs between the decks of the Nimitz Freeway. The victims of the San Francisco earthquake all stayed inside of their vehicles. They were all killed. They could have easily survived by getting out and sitting or lying next to their vehicles, says the author. Everyone killed would have survived if they had been able to get out of their cars and sit or lie next to them. All the crushed cars had voids 3 feet high next to them, except for the cars that had columns fall directly across them.

当发生地震时，在车内逃生的人会因路边坠落的物体砸伤，这正是Nimitz Freeway的路上所发生的事情。San Francisco地震的无辜受害者都呆在车内。其实，他们可以简单地离开车辆，靠近车辆坐下，或躺在车边就可以了。所有被压垮的车辆旁边都有一个3 英尺高的空间，除非车辆是被物体垂直落下。

10) I discovered, while crawling inside of collapsed newspaper offices and other offices with a lot of paper, that paper does not compact. Large voids are found surrounding stacks of paper.

我发现，在报社或办公室里堆有很多报纸的地方，通常会好些，因为报纸不受挤压。你在纸堆旁可找到一个比较大的空间。
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]]> Wed, 14 May 2008 14:58:22 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/192943 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/192943 fw: Earthquake Protection Knowledge/Tips swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/192923  发表时间: 2008年05月14日

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During an Earthquake

Do's

Don'ts

At the first sign of a tremor, remain calm. Reassure others to also stay calm and encourage them to follow your example.
Take cover immediately. Duck or protect your body from falling objects – most importantly your head and neck. Cover by getting under or near a table in a corner away from windows, or stand in a strong-framed doorway. Hold on to whatever you have chosen for protection so it will not injure you. If the object you are holding moves, move with it.
Pay particular attention to bookcases and filing cabinets and watch for falling plaster, bricks, light fixtures and other objects.
Remain covered until the shaking stops.
Do not run outside as there may be falling or fallen electrical wires, and other falling hazards.
Do not use elevators because they may fail.
Do not run to the staircases; rather walk calmly and in an orderly fashion to prevent stampede and injuries.


After an Earthquake

Do's

Don'ts

Follow instructions that may be given over the emergency public-address system. Do not evacuate until you are told to do so. Building Management office will provide specific instructions.
Be alert for trapped or injured persons, fire, chemical spills, or structural damage. Call local 2171 to report incidents.
Check your fellow workers for injuries. Do not attempt to move seriously injured persons unless they are in immediate danger of further injury.
Check for fires or fire hazards, particularly in chemical storage areas.
Shut off electrical power to damaged equipment.
If you are called to evacuate, proceed to your evacuation area and make sure you are counted.
Do not use matches, lighters, or open-flame appliances until you are sure no gas leaks exist.
Do not operate electrical switches or appliances if gas leaks are suspected.
Do not touch downed power lines or objects that are touching downed wires.
Do not use the telephone unless you have an emergency. The telephone system, even after a minor earthquake, will be overloaded with calls that people with emergencies will have difficulty placing calls. Wait at least one-half hour before calling home or elsewhere.
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]]> Wed, 14 May 2008 13:39:26 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/192923 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/192923 chm文件（常用来做为帮助文件）的“搜索”功能是否只支持本地语言？ swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/190942  发表时间: 2008年05月08日

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请教各位高手，
最近我在用chm文件。
发现在英文windows操作系统中，韩语chm的“搜索”功能无法使用。但是简体中文和繁体中文chm的“搜索”功能可以使用。其他欧洲语言,如法语，德语等的chm“搜索”功能都可以使用。
在韩语windows操作系统中，中文chm的“搜索”功能就无法使用，韩语chm的“搜索”功能可以使用。
日语的情况和韩语相同。

请问chm的搜索功能支持何种语言是由什么决定的？
它只支持操作系统的本地语言？

请指教。
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]]> Thu, 08 May 2008 10:37:30 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/190942 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/190942 学英语，做好事 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/189709  发表时间: 2008年05月05日

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选择题，找英语同义词。每答对一次，主办人员就捐二十粒米。
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]]> Mon, 05 May 2008 14:39:33 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/189709 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/189709 [zt]How to Ask Someone Out on a Date swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/185741  发表时间: 2008年04月23日

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Quick Dating Tips: How to Ask Someone Out on a Date

If you like some one you may have to ask them for a date. For men this is standard practise and for women, this process is becoming increasingly common. If you are thinking of asking someone on a date consider the following quick dating tips:

1. Why are you asking them out, is it for the right reasons and what do you expect as a result of them saying yes or no?

2. Be prepared that the person you ask may say no and in which case do not take the rejection personally.

3. When asking someone out choose your moment carefully and practise what you might say in advance so that you don't appear tongue-tied.

4. If the person you ask says yes, ensure you already have thought of a place, date and time for the date so that you display signs of thoughfulness.

5. Be prepared for the person asking why you want to date them so that you are able to flatter and create a sense of trust immediately. People can be wary and they may want to know some reasosn behind your request. Better, anticipate this by saying "would you like to come to dinner, I have always thought you are great fun..".

6. Make sure that your request for a date does not pressurize the person in any way. If they want to think about it, let them. But don't chase.

7. Make sure that when you ask someone on a date you smile and keep things fun and happy. Being confident and smiley will elicit a far more positive response.

8. Always have an alternative date and time or location in mind should the person be unsure of their diary. Giving a person a choice is often a marketing masterstroke.

9. If the person says no, don't chase for a reason, simply move on. They may think about things and get back to you with a yes response later.

10. If you ask someone on a date, make sure that you actually intend to go through with it. Standing people up is not allowed.

11. If you are being asked out don't play games. If you need time to consider the offer then say so. If you want to say no, say no. But do not keep someone hanging on for no reason. You wouldn't like the situation if it was reversed.

12. Try to avoid dutch-courage such as using alcohol to boost your courage levels as this will often backfire.

13. Don't ask someone out when they are in a group of friends. Timing is everything.

 


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]]> Wed, 23 Apr 2008 10:13:27 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/185741 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/185741 (zt) 6 Body Language Clues swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/185461  发表时间: 2008年04月22日

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6 Body Language Clues That Say You're Interested

Eye Contact

Usually the first way two people connect is through looking into each other's eyes. Before either of you speaks a single word, the eyes have already telegraphed messages. Messages can range from frank curiosity to cool assessment to shy interest. When you look deeply into a guy's eyes, you're telling him you think he's the most fascinating person in the room. In fact, if you keep your eyes locked on his, what you're saying is that as far as you're concerned, he's the only person in the room!

Full frontal eye contact can be risky, however. It can seem too bold and brazen to those men who are put off by such direct behavior by women. But if you're not the bashful maiden type, frankly gaze. In a way, it's a form of natural selection. A guy who is freaked out by your open gaze is probably not a guy for you.


Arm Crossing

When a woman crosses her arms over her chest, it can be interpreted in a number of ways by a guy. It can telegraph the message that she's a vulnerable female creature, an innocent little lamb who feels the need to protect herself from the Big Bad Wolf!

But arm crossing is also a way of telling a guy that you don't like him at all and that your fondest wish at the moment is that he'll go away.

Crossing your arms over your chest is also a sneaky way of drawing attention to your breasts. It's a primitive gesture of sexual anticipation laced with sexual anxiety, which a man might correctly read as the woman's acknowledgement of the basic Me Tarzan, You Jane chemistry happening between them.


Leaning Toward Him

The most common form of this is leaning forward when you're sitting across from him. This gesture shows interest and acceptance. In short, it means you just think he's the funniest, cutest, most fascinating creature put on the face of this earth.

But keep your poker face, player-girl! If you go overboard with the lean, you're giving away your whole hand. You want to keep him guessing at least a little bit, right?

If you catch yourself practically falling into his lap, take a deep breath, sit back in your seat and rest your hands in your lap for a few minutes ‑- at least until you cool off.

If you find yourself leaning away from him, you're either telling him you hate his guts or you're working overtime to not let him know you're all hot and bothered for him.


Leg Crossing

Leg crossing can be interpreted as a nervous or provocative gesture. Lots of people unconsciously cross and uncross their legs when they're anxious. If you're doing this, the man will correctly intuit that he's somehow "getting" to you. In other words, it's a dead giveaway to the guy that he's unsettled you and his energy has thrown off your equilibrium. On the other hand, if you're deliberately crossing your legs to show off your sexy gams, or deliberately pointing your top leg in his direction, it means you like him a lot. If you can't stop crossing your legs and you're virtually twitching in your seat, again this is an unconscious gesture that clearly tells a man that he's really getting to you. You probably don't want to give him that much power. If he knows you're burning hot for him, he has the upper hand ‑- and you don't want that. If something about him has really got you squirming, get up, take a walk or go home and take a cold shower.


Hair Twirling

Toying with your hair is a sure sign of nervousness. If you find yourself doing this, take a moment to ask yourself why this guy is making you nervous. Is it because he's too handsome? Too incredibly clever? Is it because you can't get your mind out of the gutter imagining what he would be like in bed? Save your agitation for later ‑- like when you finally fall asleep and have a red-hot dream about him!

Hair twirling can also be a playful gesture. Women with long hair tend to play with their hair. Hair is sexy and twirling and tossing it draws a man's eye to it. But beware: Many guys say it really bugs them when women keep playing with their hair. Talk about sending the wrong message! What some women think is sexy is a major turnoff to some guys.


Lip Licking

This is purely physiological. Forget what they say about "drooling" over a hot guy. When we're aroused and excited, our mouths get dry. If you find yourself licking your lips a lot in the company of a new man, it means that something about him is really getting to you. Watch out!

Lip licking clearly conveys the message that you're interested in a man. It is a very sexy, and overt, type of body language ‑- that is, if it is done correctly. What we are talking about here is a slow, sultry swipe along your lips with the tip of your tongue. Just remember to use this one with caution. Your Flirt Object will probably think you are telling him you want to take him to bed. And maybe you do! If that's the case and you're both equally interested, by all means, lick your lips. It's another way of saying, "Let's go back to your place right now." In other words, it's an action-getter.


Flared Nostrils

Omigod, this is the mother of all body language signals! Flared nostrils are an irrefutable sign of sexual arousal. If you're talking to a man and his nostrils are flaring, you can bet your booty he's achin' for you. And, um, it works vice versa. If your nostrils are flaring, your nipples are probably hard, too. If you're flirting with a guy and you've both got the nostril thing going, look out. You might have to rent a hotel room!


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]]> Tue, 22 Apr 2008 14:41:01 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/185461 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/185461 Dating Rules(zt) + my comments swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/182952  发表时间: 2008年04月15日

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网上看到的，主要是针对女生的约会忠告：
Dating Rules  - Do's
要
 
1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates
---佛要金装，人要衣装 + 守时
 
2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.
---放轻松，享受过程
 
3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.
---赞美对方的外貌衣着，千穿万穿马匹不穿
 
4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring" or something similar. You get my drift.
---我很有趣，也对你感兴趣
 
5. Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.
---我对你不来电，不想再交往下去，那么，委婉而坚决地让对方知道这一点
 
6. Do date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.
---我喜欢的我做主，他人意见仅供参考
 
7. Do stay positive even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly.
---做不成情侣，那么，或许会是一个不错的普通朋友呢
8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places you always wanted to visit within your own city.
---丰富多彩的约会内容，要计划，不要“随便”哦
 
9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.
---扩展社交圈，不妨主动些
 
10. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.
---请朋友们帮忙，闺密啦，蓝颜知己啦，互学互助多交流
 
Dating Rules - Don'ts
不要
 
1. Never call someone more than once a day unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.
---一天最多主动打一个电话
 
2. Don't date the people who you usually find dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will not get you anywhere except hurt.
---如果对方属于那种曾让你受过伤的类型，那就离他远远的，不要再重蹈覆辙
 
3. For men, never ever be late for a date, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves - ever.
---男人，绝对不要迟到，不论有多好的理由。记得绅士风度，开个门，让个座什么的
 
4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.
---不要说谎，不要假装 
 
5. Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.
---不要随时待命，随叫随到。
 
6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.
---保持一点神秘，开始的时候不要毫无保留的告诉对方自己的所有事情。
 
7. Never check other people out when you are with your date. You may think you are subtle , your date will be heading for the door. Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.
---那边有个帅哥/美女，别转头看，全部注意力放在身边的他/她的身上。
 
8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a  date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.
---别粗鲁，别醉酒
 
9. Don't ignore your personal safety when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.
---别忽视安全。手机电量足，随身带。第一次约会只去知名的公共场所，不去任何让你不舒服的地方。
 
10. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities.
---第一次约会，不要透露个人详情，比如宅电/住址等
 
11. Don't have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance. Believe me I am 100% certain on this.
---no sex on a first date.这就不用多说了
 
12. Never date a married person. They will not leave their husbands or wives for you (except exceptionally rarely). Married dating is the sure fire way to misery, lies, deceit, lack of self respect and loss of romance. If you are married, separate first. If you are single, don't be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.
---已婚人士勿扰

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]]> Tue, 15 Apr 2008 16:29:56 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/182952 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/182952 辛普森一家 2007 电影 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/122525  发表时间: 2007年09月10日

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听说《辛普森一家》已经很久了，只看了一些剧照，非常美国风格的画风，既不可爱也不漂亮，所以一直都没有提起兴趣去看。
最近看了《上海一周》上的推荐，决定去看看这部片子的2007电影版。
果然超级搞笑和经典的喜剧。剧情、笑料、教育意义、视觉效果、人物刻画都是五星级的。
剧中诸多的模仿经典桥段的地方，也是近年来电影的流行趋势。对老美影视文化了解越多，从此片中得到的乐趣也越多。
建议看的时候，随时按暂停键，背景中商店、广告、铭牌等等，都有不少让人忍俊不禁的地方，切不可错过啊。
千万不要在看片时喝水吃东西，否则不是屏幕遭殃就是衣服遭殃。换衣擦地板一定要等全片结束，否则还要返工。
 

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]]> Mon, 10 Sep 2007 11:07:39 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/122525 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/122525 [zt] WIFE and HUSBAND swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/110048  发表时间: 2007年08月08日

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Why does a man want to have a WIFE?
Because…

W--- Washing
I--- Ironing
F--- Food
E--- Entertainment

Why does a woman want to have a HUSBAND ?
Because…

H---Housing
U---Understanding
S---Sharing
B---Buying
A---and
N---Never
D---Demanding
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]]> Wed, 08 Aug 2007 09:34:35 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/110048 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/110048 《死亡笔记》真人版电影 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/84241  发表时间: 2007年05月29日

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几天前终于看了一遍前一阵子非常热门的电影《死亡笔记》。

电影版的精彩程度远远不及漫画原作，和动画片比起来也有一定差距。

主要演员的确比较让人失望，从外形到表演都不太有说服力。我看到的一些cos player 也比剧中的演员更接近原作人物呢。

不过编剧的功力还是有所体现，毕竟把一个原本100多话错综复杂高潮迭起的故事浓缩到4小时多的时间内讲完，实在不是一件容易的事。

看过片子，感觉日本青年男子爱美爱打扮的程度实在是让人惊叹了。即使是幻想现实题材，人物的中性化味道也很浓。

最出色的部分大概就是电影的插曲了。尤其是第二部的片尾曲，超赞！

总的感觉是，漫画是王道，动画相对草率，电影基本是自立一家了。
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]]> Tue, 29 May 2007 16:22:15 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/84241 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/84241 Re: 忽然觉得除了上班之外，别的事情都不会做了 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/65211  发表时间: 2007年03月24日

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今天是周六，上午睡了一个小懒觉，9点半起床。吃早饭，整理房间，扫地，帮忙妈妈准备午饭。看电视，吃午饭。下午去健身房锻炼。然后是晚饭。看电视，洗衣服，看电脑上的电视剧/电影。我的周末典型就是这样的。
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]]> Sat, 24 Mar 2007 13:32:37 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/65211 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/65211 忽然觉得除了上班之外，别的事情都不会做了 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/64955  发表时间: 2007年03月23日

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上班下班，一周一周，一月一月，时间过得像飞一样。
却记不起来，上个月自己都做过些什么事情，上个周末是怎么度过的，多久没有逛马路买新衣服了，上次约会是多久以前，上次朋友聚会又过了几个月了，最近看过的最有意思的书是什么。
就算是请一两天休假，也没有想外出游玩的兴致。
如果不加班，在家也是常常上网/看碟/看电视打发时间。
睡觉前经常想着明天上班要做些什么事情。
幻想着如果能有几周的假期有多好。

当个基层小头目怎么就已经成为工作狂了呢？

怎么样打起精神，让生活丰富多采些呢？
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]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2007 13:14:07 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/64955 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/64955 Re: 旧番推荐《虫师》 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/59109  发表时间: 2007年03月11日

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谢谢楼上的分享。虫师的原声音乐非常棒！如果失眠的话，可以听听它的音乐。不是说可以催眠，而是真的可以让心平静下来。钢琴、吉他、排萧、木琴、鼓，铃、钟、配合少许电子特效，神秘悠扬。淡淡的哀伤，动人的旋律，非常适合在夜深人静的时候细细品位。
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]]> Sun, 11 Mar 2007 16:46:54 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/59109 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/59109 Re: 旧番推荐《虫师》 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/59046  发表时间: 2007年03月11日

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这部动画确实非常精美。画风类似中国画，人物造型平实朴素，场景绝不华丽，却充满了婉约的美感。《虫师》里的故事怪诞、离奇、匪夷所思，却处处透出人性世界的种种感情。那些小人物所经历的悲喜，所表现的善良，展现着人的各种美好高尚的情怀。这是一部关于真善美的作品，如同一杯香茗，初饮时口感平淡略带苦涩，而后却回味无穷。这样带给观众/读者感动和思考的好作品，委实难得。
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]]> Sun, 11 Mar 2007 10:51:25 +0800 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/59046 http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/59046 虹口区儿童福利院 swflora 作者: swflora  链接：http://swflora.javaeye.com/blog/58672  发表时间: 2007年03月09日

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不怕人笑话，活了这把年纪，昨天才第一次去儿童福利院。
起因是党支部（一些来自外企的党员组成的相对松散的支部）计划为社会献爱心，想找个地方让党员们有机会长期帮助一些需要帮助的人。虹口区儿童福利院就是这次的目的地。

虹口区福利院在天宝路的幸福村里，坐落在居民小区边上。全靠小路上一块很小的指示牌，我们才找到了那里。福利院的建筑和一般公立幼儿园差不多。门口的告示牌上明码标示着各类收费标准。

接待我们的陶老师看上去40来岁，他已在这里工作20多年了。

和原先想象中孤儿院完全不同，这里不是面向弃婴或孤儿的，而是专门针对智障（包括自闭症）、听残、脑瘫儿童的。他们绝大多数都是有家庭的。有30位左右全托（一天24小时都在福利院）儿童和60多位日托儿童（其余的每天由家长接送）。

在陶老师带着我们参观了宿舍、教室、活动室等设施。和孩子们打着呼招，满脸堆着笑容，可我的眼里却总是酸酸的。

福利院是2004年新装修，和其他幼儿园相似，墙上装饰着很多卡通画，还有许多充满童趣的装饰品。若干个宿舍放满了单层床铺，统一的鲜艳床单和枕头被褥。这些都是某个企业老总的捐赠。

在这里你看不到在教室嬉戏、玩耍的小天使般的孩子们。孩子们根据残疾情况的不同被安排在不同的教室里进行相应的康复训练。走廊里时常看到坐着轮椅的和行动需要人扶持的脑瘫儿童。而那些重度智障的孩子大多数安静地坐在教室里面。

一些中度残疾的孩子，则会向他们教授更多知识和技能，唱歌、画画、写字等。一个教室里刚上完课。看到陶老师和我们，孩子们都露出开心笑容在老师的教导下和我们打招呼，大声叫“陶老师好！阿姨好！”。也有一些怕生躲开的，还有1个对外界没有任何反应（陶老师说，他们是自闭症患儿）。刚才的课里，他们学了三八妇女节。显然，他们都懂这是一个女性的节日。

听力康训室里都是3-4岁带助听器的聋儿。训练的目标就是让这些孩子“十聋而不哑”。在学习语言的关键时段，教他们学会说话。其中一个才训练3个月的孩子，已经能口齿清楚地说“老师好！新年好！”。而此前，她连爸爸妈妈都不会叫。

从陶老师的介绍中，我得知院里的很多孩子都来自困难家庭。有父母残疾的、下岗的、靠祖父母抚养的、单亲的……除了孩子的残疾之外，还有其他种种不幸都同时降临到这些家庭中。看到他们，自己才意识到作为一个健全人是多么幸福。

根据护理要求的不同，福利院收费一个月三百多元一千多元不等。一个月10元的点心费，已经十多年没有涨价了。

这些费用当然远远不够日常开支。福利院的维持主要来自政府的补贴和社会上的爱心援助。

这里的护工有40、50人员，还有一些外来务工者。教师和护工们的工资都是非常低的。在这里工作主要凭着一份爱心和信念。

我们问陶老师，能为他们做些什么，他们需要什么。
一些我们想当然的东西，对他们其实并不很实用。比如，书籍、文具、玩具。
他们需要任何形式的帮助：捐款、食品、日用品、各种价格优惠的服务（例如，提供低价的包车，门票，组织孩子游园）。即使不给任何经济上的帮助，只要花一些时间去看看那些孩子们，他们就已经很开心了。

我想，如果一个20个人团体，每人每个月拿出5元来，就能为一个家有残疾儿童的困难家庭送去雪中炭了。

有空的话，请去看看这些孩子吧。

虹口区儿童福利院的网站地址：
http://www.shhkefy.com
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